Expecting a Baby? Preparing and Introducing Your Dog to Your Newborn
If you are like many expectant parents, your first baby was a fur baby. Until now, your dog has gotten used to having all of mom and dad’s attention. A shift in that attention can mean stress for everyone. Introducing your dog to your baby is a unique challenge, but one you can meet successfully.
Even before the human baby arrives, your dog will sense change is coming. From the physical changes in mom to changes around the house. New furniture and strange new baby paraphernalia appear. Your pup may even sense the excitement and nervousness you may be feeling!
The key to having your dog welcome the baby as its new best friend is in preparation. By planning ahead and giving your dog time to adjust, your pooch will feel more comfortable and at ease with this major life change. Here’s what you need to know if you’re expecting a baby:
First Steps in Preparation
You have about 9 months to prepare your dog. View this time before your baby’s arrival as an investment in your peace of mind later. A drastic change in the amount of time you spend with your dog can cause jealousy and depression. These can lead to behavioral problems in pets. Weaning your dog away from undivided attention slowly can help them adapt more easily when introducing your dog to your baby.
Of course, many expectant parents choose to bring home a new puppy at the same time as a new baby. This is so the newly-borns can grow up together and make memories of a lifetime. If that is true in your case, then your first steps will surely include pet-proofing your home.
Set up the baby’s room gradually and well in advance of the baby’s arrival. It will help avoid the disturbance of sudden and drastic changes in the home. This is also the time to establish boundaries. Will your dog be allowed in the nursery room? If so, let your dog inspect it. If not, install a baby gate now. A gate will allow your dog to see inside and not feel left out of all the fun.
Install, at this time, any baby gates that you will need later. This is to help prevent your pooch from suddenly feeling “imprisoned” when the baby comes. Remember to keep dirty diapers in a pet-proof bin. Soiled baby clothes with milk or spilled food on them can be irresistible to pets. So a pet-proof laundry hamper is a good idea too.
Make sure your dog has a wellness exam and is current on vaccines. If your pet isn’t already spayed or neutered, now is the time to do so. This can help calm possible aggression and other behavioral issues. If your pet is already displaying anxiety, please discuss this with your veterinarian. The veterinarians at Northeast Animal Hospital can manage many cases of anxiety through routine appointments.
Behavior problems range from relatively simple to more complex. Multiple appointments may be necessary to address more complex issues (or multiple issues). For the most complicated cases, we can provide you with a reference to a board-certified veterinary behaviorist who can help. Such can help in cases involving dogs with a history of aggression that will remain in a household with children.
Training and Acclimation
Does your dog know basic obedience? If so, great! Begin reviewing those skills daily so that your dog will consistently obey you when you tell them to sit, stay, or lay down. If your dog doesn’t know those commands, now is the time to enroll in a class. Does your dog jump on you while you’re standing? Curb that unwanted habit now before your dog is jumping on you with a baby in your arms, or jumping on a toddler in a few years.
Laps and Beds
If your dog is used to curling up in your lap, then start getting your pup used to lying beside you. Or, offer your dog a cozy bed on the floor by your feet. Train your dog to only hop onto your lap at your invitation. If your dog sleeps in bed with you, you’ll have to decide now if that’s going to continue once the baby comes. Don’t wait until after the baby arrives to banish the dog from the bed.
Many expectant parents have found success in preparing their dog for the arrival of a new baby by getting a life-sized, realistic doll and treating it as they would a real baby. Wrap it in a blanket, hold it, and coo to it. Carry the doll from room to room, diaper it, and have it use the baby swing, bassinet, and crib.
Teach your dog to sit and stay whenever it is around the “baby”. Only allow your dog to investigate the doll if he or she can remain calm. Reward your pup for good behavior with treats, praises, and a good petting. Interacting with the baby will become a positive experience. Reinforcing good behavior prompts your dog to repeat that behavior.
Find recordings of a baby crying and cooing on YouTube. Play these throughout the day to get your dog accustomed to the sounds a baby makes. If you plan to have moving baby swings or baby items that make noise, start using them now. Make all of these sessions positive experiences by offering your dog a treat or other form of reward.
Practice walking your dog with the stroller if walking together is something you plan to do later. The stroller is typically the most likely piece of equipment that dogs react to with anxiety or even aggression. Stroller conditioning should begin many months ahead of time to associate it with good things: walks, treats, and attention—but only when your dog is exhibiting calm behavior.
Bringing Baby Home
New Baby Smell
While you’re still in the hospital, have a friend or family member bring home an article of clothing or blanket that the baby has used. Allow the dog to smell the article—but don’t allow the dog to take it away. When introducing your dog to your baby, your dog will already be familiar with the baby’s scent.
Introducing Your Dog to Your Baby
When walking in the door, try to remain as calm as possible, and have someone other than mom carry the baby inside so that she can be free to say hello to the dog. Offering the dog a new toy can help keep the homecoming positive.
Some may find the following section a bit controversial, as a simple Google search will result in articles that suggest nearly the same advice for introducing your dog to your baby. Usually, the suggestions read as follows:
Keep the first introduction between dog and baby short, and have someone else hold the dog or its leash while mom holds the baby. If the dog is too excited, have the person back up, wait a few moments for the dog to calm down, and try again.
The dog should only be allowed to investigate the baby if the dog remains calm. Never force an interaction between the dog and the baby; this new wriggling creature may take some getting used to!
Keep treats within easy reach the first few days after the baby comes home and remember to give praise and a reward anytime your pup is staying calm when the baby is nearby. In this way, your dog will come to associate the baby with good things!
Even if you couldn’t have imagined a better introduction and the two of them seem like instant best friends, supervise their time together 100% of the time. Accidents happen and even non-aggressive play can be dangerous for a baby.
However, our recommendation is to not allow direct contact between the dog and the baby. They can be in the same room, assuming your pet is not exhibiting concerning behaviors. Newborn babies have many movements and sounds that can elicit predatory instincts in some dogs.
Predation is not always predictable and is often hard to recognize, as dogs with predatory aggression seem eager to investigate the baby, and attacks are often silent. It is typically the underlying cause of fatal attacks of dogs on babies—including within our own Tampa Bay community over the last ten years or so.
There is really no need for a dog to have direct interaction with a baby. The time for direct-contact introductions should be delayed at least until the toddler stage. When children become more mobile, they often pose a greater concern to dogs who can find toddlers’ unpredictable behavior frightening. Any introductions then should be made only with dogs that have shown calm behavior around the child, with direct supervision, and with two adults present.
Dog bites can do a great deal more damage than most people realize. We highly recommend you review the Liam J. Perk Foundation website, which provides awareness and education on dog bites and children. Their Facebook page is an excellent resource for learning the behaviors we might miss when a dog is feeling anxious, fearful, or aggressive.
The Blue Dog also strives to educate parents on safer relationships between children and dogs. According to their website, “because most accidents with family dogs result from seemingly benign (from the human perspective) interactions, the aim of The Blue Dog is to stimulate awareness in parents about how their dog behaves when hugged, petted, or approached in different situations.”
Settling into Life with Baby
Need for Attention
Your time is without a doubt now divided between your fur-baby and its new “sibling.” Some dogs will naturally adapt to this change, but some may become destructive as a way to get attention, while others may become overly protective of their new human.
Still, other dogs may exhibit anxiety by urinating in the baby’s room or on its clothes, toys, or other items. This isn’t necessarily an act of jealousy, or a means to get back at you or the baby. Territorial marking can relieve your dog’s stress by covering the baby’s scent with its own. Avoid the temptation to scold your dog for this because it could actually make the anxiety worse during this adjustment period. Instead, block access to the baby’s room, or other urination targets, and find a way to spend more time with your pup.
Don’t forget how important exercise is for a dog to display good behavior. If your dog has unreleased energy, then raiding the garbage and other shenanigans can ensue. Arrange for your dog to get a long walk each day, or some time for its favorite game in the backyard. If your dog is still getting in more trouble than usual, redirect its behavior to a chew toy so that your pup isn’t always getting scolded. Read more about how to curb bad behavior through exercise.
Make sure that when you talk to your baby, you talk to your pooch too, so that the interaction between the two is pleasant. For those times that you need to confine your dog to an area away from the baby, your dog should already be used to time behind a baby gate. They can learn to enjoy this time if they are given a special chew or a treat stuffed toy to occupy themselves.
By taking the time to prepare for introducing your dog to your baby, you can help ensure that they will go from strangers to lifelong friends. If you’re worried about juggling a new baby and your dog in the early days, consider doggy daycare and have them try it out before the baby comes. You’ll have time to bond with your baby, and your dog will have a blast getting out all that pent-up energy!